In an ongoing effort to cause people to think differently I am now going to talk about something that has always been a personal struggle for me, women in ministry. And when I say personal struggle I mean that I was raised in a church setting that was/is more traditional and often viewed as backwards when it comes to women in ministry, and I always struggled with that. Part of the reason I struggled so mightily with it was because I had had great Sunday School teachers or other leaders who were women, but we couldn’t have a woman pastor? As well I heard some persuasive arguments for why a woman couldn’t be a pastor.
I recognize for some churches this is a non-issue, but for a lot it is still a big stumbling block. I also see woman as marginalized even in the marriage setting and I think how the church treats its woman is how the husbands in the church treat their wives.
This whole argument can really be broken down into two sides which are, complimentarian and egalitarian. People on the extremes will tell you that these two sides have nothing in common, don’t believe them. Being someone who was raised one way and sought another I see that each side has merit and flaws. If you have never heard these terms before, I’m sorry for making your life a little more complicated.
Let’s start with complimentarian. I want to highlight some notable figures that sit in these camps, and I believe this will help you discern which is best for you. Famous complimentarians include D.A. Carson, Wayne Grudem, Tim Keller, C.S. Lewis, John Piper, and John MacArthur to name drop a few. There are people out there that give this view point a bad rap, so I excluded them from my list. What does it mean to be a complimentarian? Well it’s all in the name. Men and women compliment each other, there are specific roles for each and never should the roles meet. Men are dads and women are moms for a basic example. The main problem I have with this is that it seems the restrictions are only on women. This view also holds to the classic ideas of marriage in that a women submit to her husband as per the teachings of Paul. Submission though is a tricky term, and has earned a bad reputation among even some evangelicals. I will talk about the idea of submission more later on. For now, let’s generalize and say complimentarians hold to a more strict man is the head ideal. This translates into the church as well, men should be the head of the church and women are submissive to that.It can be said that this view in its most basic form holds to traditional hierarchy. They would say scripture holds to this, and that it is also quite clear on the distinction between men and women. The nice thing about these people is they believe in order and tradition, they believe in a place for everything and everything has a place.
Egalitarians on the other hand believe in a level playing field. It comes from the French word Egal which means level. This view believes men and women are equal, that whatever men can do women can do and vice versa, except for that which biologically divides us. Some famous egalitarians are Shane Claiborne, Gordon Fee, Greg Boyd, Martin Luther King Jr., N.T. Wright, and Rachel Held Evans. This view does not seek to destroy distinction between gender, but rather to view gender as distinct from traditional gender roles. In the church setting these folks would be okay with a woman as the head of the church. They do not view men as the head of a family in the traditional sense but view marriage as a 50/50 relationship where each partner has equal say. Submission is viewed completely different, in that it should be mutual. They assert that scripture that refers to women is bound by society and culture. They would insist you examine the heart of the issue, not the words themselves. They suffer from a tendency to go to far I think, becoming almost too feminist and holding women in higher regard than men, and that’s not the point, it is about equality.
I do not think these ideas are mutually exclusive, you can easily blur the lines between them and pick and choose if you so desire. My descriptions are also basic and general, so please don’t think this sums up what either side thinks, if you are interested in more info on complimentarians consult this book, and egalitarians consult this book.
When I approach any issue like this these days I have to ask myself a few things. First, when I approach God one day and he asks me to recount what I have done what will I be proud to say, and what will shame me? Secondly, if scripture says one thing but culture has shifted, can or should scripture shift as well? And thirdly, what will help the Kingdom most?
First, I want to be able to tell God I did my best. I don’t think my best includes prohibiting women from speaking, teaching and leading people.
Second, and probably most controversially, I think scripture needs to shift with culture.This does not mean questioning the authority of scripture. All of us would be ready to admit that women don’t need to wear head coverings in church anymore, but think how dare she lead the congregation. It is a pick and choose theology, and is unacceptable. But if you examine the heart of scripture we begin to hear a different story. Women shouldn’t wear beads in their hair because that’s what prostitutes did. Essentially Paul is asking women to respect themselves and dress appropriately, don’t dress for guys, don’t dress for the occasion, dress for yourself and respect your body and image. When it comes to teaching and leading we again run into cultural issues. Then it was not okay for women to hold authority over men by cultural standards. Paul pushed the bounds by having them as deacons and coworkers and prophetesses. Jesus also was first revealed to women and was anointed king by a woman, so we can’t say the New Testament wasn’t progressive for its time. But this is a new time, and our faith is always calling us to be progressive, not regressive. Putting women back into the kitchen and out of the pulpit is regressive.
Third, the most good for the Kingdom includes every member of the body serving with their gifts. If a woman is a gifted speaker, give her a stage, if she is a gifted teacher, give her a classroom.
Now that I have said all that, there are some areas still that are tough to think about and that I think every church needs to reconcile. What does it mean to submit? Should women be the only submitters? Men are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church, what does that mean? True submission and love in marriage must be on some sort of mutual, and beneficial level. Woman are more than wives for our husbands, they are partners in a life long process of love and growth together in God. I think we need to begin to explore the idea of marriage, teaching and leading through the lenses of a progressive forward thinking church. One that loves scripture and holds it in the highest regard, but also understands its fluidity and context. I think every church has the potential to be advancing how culture and society treats the marginalized and outcast. Every husband and wife needs to discuss how they will run their house. Every church needs to admit we live in a world where women are respected as more than property, but as beautiful creations of God who have more to offer than motherhood. They have thoughts, ideas, and ways to take the church forward in the 21st century. These two sides need to realize neither is reading scripture wrong, they are reading it differently, and sometimes that’s okay.
